March Musings from the Dordogne!

I have discovered, in my own life, that when I pull back from wanting anything more than I have, I begin to experience Being. This unconscious wanting, for something different to what’s presenting in the moment, is the greatest obstacle to happiness. It is the root of all suffering. It is also the root of all worry, stress, control and greed .

It happens when we identify so much with “having” that we lose touch with our “being” nature – our sacredness and also the sacredness of all life around us. This is the foundation of any true spirituality.

When we detach

There I was, a year separated, forty something years of age, with zero experience of dating, after 20 plus years with the same woman. I felt fearful about going out into that brave new world - but at the same time, I wanted it. There seemed to be two parts of me battling inside - the fearful part, which wanted me to stay in my comfort zone – and the excited part of me, wanting to get up close and personal to a woman.

As I focused on these two parts of me, I realised that I could energise whichever part I gave my attention to. So I decided to focus on the excitement, and, rather than thinking too much about it ( another of fears little tricks!) I took ACTION.

So you want to be successful?

Well, don't you? Doesn't everyone? It seems to me that success is one of those mainstream concepts that has not been sufficiently challenged. I mean, what is it? Who defines it? You, or someone else? Is it a formula that never changes, always based on the same stuff - usually money, power, respect, fame - or does it change as life evolves?

Richard Branson, the well known billionaire founder of Virgin records and a serial entrepreneur, said that he measured Success by how happy he was, whereas Maya Angelou said "Success is liking yourself, liking what you do and liking how you do it." Winston Churchill is reputed to have quipped that, for him, Success was … "going from failure to failure without losing enthusiasm!"

So we can see that it’s a very individual thing, which you get to define for yourself. There are many benefits to taking the time to redefine Success for yourself, but here's what I believe are the top three.

I CAN'T SWITCH OFF !!

You have a lot on your plate. There’s always stuff to be done, bills to be paid, outings to plan, phone calls to make, a thousand emails to respond to. It’s a busy world. We get stressed. Our minds go into overdrive – and at some point, we may say to ourselves “I just need to chill a bit more. I need to know how to de-stress. I have to learn how to quieten my mind.”

But of course it’s not that simple, and thoughts like that can even cause more stress, until, sometimes, you think you’re going crazy! So, if it’s all too much for you, do this. This is the most powerful way to break your identification with your mind......

RECEPTIVITY – THE FEMININE ASPECT OF CONSCIOUSNESS.

We all have our challenges. Me too. Lately I’ve realised that one of mine is this - allowing myself to open deeply into BEING RECEPTIVE. I’ve been reflecting on it and this is what I came up with.

Like most of you who are Mums and Dads, my children opened up that part of me that was able to be responsible and to support them as best I could. Now that my children are grown up and very self-sufficient, I’ve often noticed that I still take on too much responsibility in other ways. What I mean by that is that I rely on myself more than I need to. I DON’T REALLY ASK FOR SUPPORT IF I CAN DO IT MYSELF.

While this is laudable in some respects, it also means that, in a subtle way, I had learned to remove myself from ALLOWING support. I was more in my comfort zone when I took it all on – by myself. That “I CAN DO IT” mentality is not always healthy, because, for me at least, it meant that I became a little aloof and, dare I say it, overly insulated from the affection of others.

THERE’S NOT ENOUGH. I NEVER HAVE ENOUGH.

Yes, I’m afraid it’s true - many of us process information in a consistently negative or biased way and this time of year is a perfect trigger for all those thoughts of lack to come to the surface.

Why?

Well, the science of NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) has discovered that “neurons that fire together wire together.” This means that, based on our experiences of life up until now, we have hardwired all kinds of beliefs into our emotional and physical worlds - without even being aware of most of them!! Beliefs like “I never have enough ….time, love, money, success.”

OK, so we now know that

Healthy Skepticism

"Due to an unnatural sonic control program in Earth’s grids, only 4 Vector Codes have been active in biological earth since 25,500 BC, making the chemical DNA of Earth life appear to be a “Base 4 Genetic Alphabet”

I kid you not! And there's lots more where that came from ......

There are all kinds of delusions you can get into, if you want .....Pleideans, Excalibur Reiki, Atlantis Crystals, Unicorn Reiki, Archangels, Dolphin Trilogy Healing, 12 Strand DNA Activation, Seventh rays, you name it! The scary part is that people believe in these things MORE than they believe in THEMSELVES. There is so much woo-woo out there that people are attracted to. It's like they've switched off their "bullshit radar." and they confuse this type of thing with "spirituality."

Give IGOR a holiday !

I like to run, but lately, inner saboteur ((I call him Igor) has been grumbling about that. He wants me to take it easy, put my feet up and enjoy a delicious patisserie and a beer. Yes, he's very convincing!

One of my antidotes to Igor is this - do the thing you've been putting off BEFORE you do anything else for the day. We all have those things that just get moved to the end of the list, haven't we?

So this morning I dressed straight into my running gear and got out before breakfast. Now, 2 hours later, I've got the heart rate up during my run, and got to stretch my body in yoga and calm my mind in meditation. I may even be feeling smug

I notice that Igor is very quiet now, and that's what

Awakening the Deep Self

There are dangers inherent in everything, including the healing journey into deeper consciousness.

One of the dangers is this continuous “reaching for the Light” - because it often leads to

Inability to set appropriate boundaries.
Denial of our so-called “negative” emotions.
Inability to look after our physical needs.
Spiritual bypassing of any issue that we find difficult.
Chaos in our normal everyday life.

This is because many of us can use spirituality as yet another way to get away from difficult stuff we don’t want to deal with.

We don’t want to really look at how we treat our bodies. We don’t want to deal with

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Book Excerpt: The Possibility Exists

"When someone says to you, “I’m a Reiki Master,” it’s supposed to sound impressive. But what does it mean?

It may simply mean that he or she has paid money to train for a few days with someone who trained with someone else over a few days – and so on. You get the picture. All of a sudden we have an explosion of ‘Masters’ – Reiki Masters, IET Masters, Tantric Masters, Seventh Level Ascended Violet Flame Masters of the Black Star.

OK, I made the last one up! But we do have to laugh at ourselves if we believe we’re Masters of something after a few weekends, or now after doing an online course! Who are we fooling?

Real Masters don’t need to tell you that they’re Masters.

You’ll know - just by being around them. A real Master is someone who has spent a lifetime getting to know themselves in all their darkness and all their light, without needing to identify with either aspect of the opposite poles that live inside us all. Real Masters are ordinary people, like you, like me, humbled by the immensity of the mystery we are living. They radiate a presence, not a personality. There’s a world of difference."

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THOUGHTS AND ANXIETY

It's a bit like holding a TV remote control in your hand. You sit down on the couch, grab the remote control and select the channel you want, and then the program you want to tune into. You press the button and you activate the download through your satellite dish. You're pulling a data stream from a satellite way up there in the atmosphere, and your dish is receiving the signal - and then converting it into images which jump onto the TV screen. It's

STOP RESISTING REALITY!

Our resistance to the circumstances of our lives can create more PAIN and DIS-EASE than is actually necessary. I made this video to demonstrate how much energy we waste by the insanity of resisting reality. Strong words, yes - but I want to shock you!! I want you to see that IT ACTUALLY IS A FORM OF INSANITY - TO RESIST REALITY. Guess who wins? NOT YOU. EVER. NEVER.

All your thinking about reality

THIS ..... IS YOUR JOURNEY

IT WILL HAPPEN SOMETIME.

MAYBE IN THIS LIFETIME. MAYBE IN ANOTHER.

YOU GET TO CHOOSE.

BUT KNOW THIS - IT HAS TO HAPPEN.

IT WILL HAPPEN. YOU CANNOT STOP EVOLUTION.

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You know that something isn’t right in your life.

You start to wonder how you got to be this way, in this situation. You remember a time when it was different, maybe when you were younger, when you were so vibrant, so open, so curious - and you long for this again …. this “something.”

Is it FREEDOM? FULFILMENT? LOVE? MEANING? You’re not sure, but you know that something needs to change. It’s like an itch that won’t go away.

PURE DESIRE

There appear to be two contradictory beliefs in the world about Desire.

1. New Age Beliefs – e.g. Law of Attraction.

"You must really WANT it. Do this for long enough and ... YOU WILL GET IT."

2. Older Beliefs - inspired by religious views.

"To be truly spiritual you must renounce desire (Christian) or transcend desire. (eastern approach). The underlying message is - Don’t Desire. Desire is BAD!”

THE THIEF THAT ROBS US

This moment is simply the space available to you - right now.Happiness is available, peace is available, right now, always. BUT - its all up to you.

You will experience this moment based on your thoughts about it, but you need to understand that each moment is a microcosm of your life, and that each moment builds on and includes all the previous moments. When we are

Self Sabotage

"The key to abundance is meeting limited circumstances with unlimited thoughts"

-Marianne Williamson

The whole process of MANIFESTATION depends on our thoughts ‘hitting the ground’ and becoming real in the physical world. THOUGHT is just another form of energy that originates in our crown chakra, at the top of the skull. It will always seek ground in the lower chakras, in the same way that electricity or lightning seeks ground in the earth. This grounding of our dreams, of course, doesn’t happen all the time.

THE JOURNEY INTO MANIFESTATION

You’ve got to understand yourself as an energy being if you want to manifest your desires.First of all, you’ve got to know what you want, and to be very clear on that. After that comes the challenge of manifesting your desires. It’s easy for most of us to dream about what we want in life. Dreams don’t “cost” you anything, in energy terms. It’s easy to love the idea of The Law of Attraction. It’s easy to “do visualisation” – but so many of our desires never materialise!

If you’re really serious about

Make Love not War

What is happening in our world? In a time when we’re (supposedly) becoming more intelligent, and we have vast amounts of knowledge at our fingertips, we cannot seem to live together. Every day we hear more of…. Nuclear Bombs. Fear. Threats. Terror. Death. Pain. Power-mongering Politicians.

We support religious ideologies - founded on a judgmental fearful God. We support political ideologies - based on SEPARATION - US and THEM. We buy into the POWER AND CONTROL games we see in the world – and in our own lives too. We see hearts that are closed, including our own. We see minds that are judgemental, aggressive and hardened, including our own.
And so, the endless cycle of “ US AND THEM” continues.
MY HEART SCREAMS “WHY?”

THOUGHTS AND ANXIETY

There is nothing wrong with you.

That is the profound truth that all spiritual teachers have been bringing to us for centuries. Yet most of us resist that possibility because we’re so programmed to think otherwise. We think we lack something, and we spend most of our lives looking for it, often leading us to feeling a sort of emptiness.

Of course, we don’t like this feeling at all, so we do our best to avoid it, or pretend its not there, to numb it out somehow. The TV goes on, or maybe the wine bottle is drained - again! Some people simply become compulsive about work, or exercise or even yoga!. We'll do anything at all to escape this empty feeling - what some religions have described as "the void."

But we can’t escape it - it’s like a gnawing in the pit of our stomachs – something is missing. We begin to build our personalities around this feeling of lack - because we think we need to pretend everything is ok, and so we defend or hold onto what little we have. We defend our beliefs, our opinions, our money, our relationships – all our energy goes into maintaining the charade, and we don't want to be found out. Deep down, if we're honest, we fear that we are not enough.

SHADOW WISDOM

( extracted and rewritten from “The Possibility Exists” - available on Amazon https://amzn.to/2Ba2AN0 )

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SHADOW : "A dark area or shape produced by a body coming between rays of light and a surface." - Oxford Dictionary

Hey you. Yeah you. Wanna know what’s in your shadow? Nah, I didn’t think so.

In truth, none of us do. Our egos prefer us to not be curious about the dark, but…. then again, you just might be one of those people who knows that darkness is simply the absence of light. You just might be curious enough to read on….

Let’s start with when I first recognised an aspect of my own shadow. I was raised to be very independent. That’s a good thing. But the unspoken (shadow) aspect of that upbringing was “it is not good to be dependent. Not good at all.” As a young adult, I hadn’t realised that I did not like to be around people who were needy and dependent. I fact, I looked down on them from my high perch.

Anyone who didn’t work for a living – SCROUNGERS!!

People who were very needy – GIVE THEM A GOOD KICK UP THE ASS!!

I also steered clear of people who always had problems, and , even worse, people who actually TALKED ABOUT THEIR ISSUES!!

Dear Beloved

I know you are in pain, and yet you continue to journey on your own. I have tried to reach you many times but you have resisted all my attempts to make a connection with you. It saddens me to see you like this, but I must respect the contract I made with you before you left for earth.

You knew that there was darkness there. You knew that you might get lost in it and forget me, but you also knew that I would never abandon you or force you to wake up. You and I agreed that you would have the same consciousness as I have, and the same freedom to choose.