Wanting something Different

March Musings from the Dordogne!

I have discovered, in my own life, that when I pull back from wanting anything more than I have, I begin to experience Being. This unconscious wanting, for something different to what’s presenting in the moment, is the greatest obstacle to happiness. It is the root of all suffering. It is also the root of all worry, stress, control and greed .

It happens when we identify so much with “having” that we lose touch with our “being” nature – our sacredness and also the sacredness of all life around us. This is the foundation of any true spirituality.

When we detach

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Fear and Excitement !

There I was, a year separated, forty something years of age, with zero experience of dating, after 20 plus years with the same woman. I felt fearful about going out into that brave new world - but at the same time, I wanted it. There seemed to be two parts of me battling inside - the fearful part, which wanted me to stay in my comfort zone – and the excited part of me, wanting to get up close and personal to a woman.

As I focused on these two parts of me, I realised that I could energise whichever part I gave my attention to. So I decided to focus on the excitement, and, rather than thinking too much about it ( another of fears little tricks!) I took ACTION.

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Our  resistance to the circumstances of our lives can create more PAIN and DIS-EASE than is actually necessary.  I made this video to demonstrate how much energy we waste by the insanity of resisting reality. Strong words, yes - but I want to shock you!! I want you to see that IT ACTUALLY IS A FORM OF INSANITY - TO RESIST REALITY. Guess who wins? NOT YOU. EVER. NEVER.

All your thinking about reality

doesn't change the fact that it's there, staring you in the face. It's the traffic jam, or the flat tyre, or your husband's behaviour. It simply is, and you can think about it all you like, and wish it wasn't as it is - but all you're doing is causing yourself suffering. REALITY doesn't care what you think about it.

So i encourage you to notice when you're in a state of resistance, and move into acceptance instead. That doesn't mean that you condone, for instance, abusive behaviour - not at all.  What it does mean is that you take your focus away from thoughts like "this shouldn't be happening to me" or "this shouldn't be happening" - to "It is happening. It is what it is".

Now, you've stopped resisting. You've freed up a whole lot of creative energy - and the next question is what are you going to do with all that energy?  But that's for another day. For now, have a look at the video - we had a few laughs making this one :)



Quotes from Eoin's Book - "The Possibility Exists..." - published by O-Books, and available on Amazon 

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