IN MY EARLY THIRTIES I began to "wake up". It took a lot to get through my thick skin, or, to put it more bluntly, and honestly - I was "cracked open!"
Here's a few of the events that caused me to grow up, wise up, and eventually - wake up!
- a motorcycle accident - where I had the tunnel EXPERIENCE OF NEAR-DEATH
- a complete psychological MELTDOWN due to stress
- separation, divorce and single parenthood
- all of which left me questioning myuself and everything I believed in
- an incredibly powerful enlightenment experience
- a period in INTENSIVE CARE
-when I didn't know if I would survive
You can read all about my experiences and learnings in "The Possibility Exists."
It took me a while, but when I finally learned to stop seeking for "happiness" outside myself, MY JOURNEY BEGAN.
- a motorcycle accident - where I had the tunnel EXPERIENCE OF NEAR-DEATH
- a complete psychological MELTDOWN due to stress
- separation, divorce and single parenthood
- all of which left me questioning myuself and everything I believed in - an incredibly powerful enlightenment experience
- a period in INTENSIVE CARE
-when I didn't know if I would survive
You can read all about my experiences and learnings in "The Possibility Exists."
It took me a while, but when I finally learned to stop seeking for "happiness" outside myself, MY JOURNEY BEGAN.
After those serious wake-up calls, along with my powerful near-death experience, I began to doubt MY OWN PROPAGANDA.
I had no idea what my deep needs were, let alone how to get my needs met. I had no idea how to love myself. What chance had I then of really loving another?
Looking back now, over 20 years later, it all seems strangely surreal, as if I'm looking back at a different person in a different life. Back then I was a successful businessman with a great life - according to many people! I had read lots of self-help books and understood the power of positive habits and how to "succeed".
The truth, however, was that I lived inside a cocooned idea of who I was - and the big revelation for me was this : WHO I WAS HAD BEEN SHAPED BY OTHERS. I didn't know "ME" at all. I had no deep connection to my true self. While I had a strong self-image, that's all it was - a self-image - or an "image of self" if you like. It certainly wasn't the real me!
I had become a master at pretence, hiding my fears and low self-esteem behind a projected outer layer of confidence. My passive-aggressive personality was also hidden away, buried by the internalised belief from my childhood programming: "I don't do conflict - because I'm a good person." I showed everyone how happy I was - and how sure I was of myself and my place in the world. It was too scary and vulnerable to let people see what was really going on.
Looking back now, over 20 years later, it all seems strangely surreal, as if I'm looking back at a different person in a different life. Back then I was a successful businessman with a great life - according to many people! I had read lots of self-help books and understood the power of positive habits and how to "succeed".
The truth, however, was that I lived inside a cocooned idea of who I was - and the big revelation for me was this : WHO I WAS HAD BEEN SHAPED BY OTHERS. I didn't know "ME" at all. I had no deep connection to my true self. While I had a strong self-image, that's all it was - a self-image - or an "image of self" if you like. It certainly wasn't the real me!
I had become a master at pretence, hiding my fears and low self-esteem behind a projected outer layer of confidence. My passive-aggressive personality was also hidden away, buried by the internalised belief from my childhood programming: "I don't do conflict - because I'm a good person." I showed everyone how happy I was - and how sure I was of myself and my place in the world. It was too scary and vulnerable to let people see what was really going on.
I didn’t want to admit to the world that I was full of fear, and that I didn't feel good about me. I didn't want to admit to myself that my life had started to crumble, and that I had started hearing a voice whispering inside me!
Listening to that voice was the best thing I've ever done. It was that inner voice that we all have. It whispers things you know to be true, but you ignore them. In my case, it took me by the hand and dragged me, coaxed me, little by little, into having an honest look at myself.
And so I learned all about my defense mechanisms, my projections and my shadow. I learned how to hold - and how to let go. I learned how to set healthy boundaries. I learned to not blame others for being themselves.
I learned to notice all the energy I was wasting and then I learned how to reclaim it. I learned how to feel all my emotions unconditionally because they were mine. Eventually I found everything I wanted – inside. It was so strange to realize that there was nothing wrong with me. I was enough!
Listening to that voice was the best thing I've ever done. It was that inner voice that we all have. It whispers things you know to be true, but you ignore them. In my case, it took me by the hand and dragged me, coaxed me, little by little, into having an honest look at myself.
And so I learned all about my defense mechanisms, my projections and my shadow. I learned how to hold - and how to let go. I learned how to set healthy boundaries. I learned to not blame others for being themselves.
I learned to notice all the energy I was wasting and then I learned how to reclaim it. I learned how to feel all my emotions unconditionally because they were mine. Eventually I found everything I wanted – inside. It was so strange to realize that there was nothing wrong with me. I was enough!
After many years of counselling, workshops, retreats, healing, psychotherapy and so on, I - finally - found ME.
Authentic ME. Powerful Me. Creative Me. Passionate ME. Gentle ME. Fearful ME. Fearless ME.
I had learned and integrated a deep acceptance of me - ALL OF ME. FINALLY, I WAS "COMING HOME" TO MYSELF. These days - thanks to my daily practices - I tend to enter each day with an open mind, an undefended heart ans a strong foundation in the body.
Many teachers and courageous souls have accompanied me to this point in my life. Thank you all for the wisdom and support you shared with me. Thanks too, to all of those who disagreed with me and took issue with me, and brought me to my edges. You have been great teachers too!
These days, I'm a little wiser.
I have more fun.
I create more.
I eat incredibly healthy organic food.
I still enjoy running, yoga, meditation, singing, playing my guitars - and a glass of wine and a good boogie!
My passion is still to inspire people to be emotionally open, non-attached to their thinking, physically healthy, and fully connected to their own unique spirit.
Check out what i offer HERE.
These days, I'm a little wiser.
I have more fun.
I create more.
I eat incredibly healthy organic food.
I still enjoy running, yoga, meditation, singing, playing my guitars - and a glass of wine and a good boogie!
My passion is still to inspire people to be emotionally open, non-attached to their thinking, physically healthy, and fully connected to their own unique spirit.
Check out what i offer HERE.
